{"id":1013,"date":"2010-03-08T11:22:32","date_gmt":"2010-03-08T18:22:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1013"},"modified":"2025-11-04T11:15:29","modified_gmt":"2025-11-04T18:15:29","slug":"male-patterns","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1013","title":{"rendered":"Male Patterns"},"content":{"rendered":"

I see patterns everywhere.\u00a0 The most fun have been the patterns in my dating life amongst the men.\u00a0 It went like this.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I’d get a bunch of emails from good looking Latinos and then lots of sexy black men.\u00a0 There would be a sudden stream of 29 year olds then an influx of men in their 40’s.\u00a0 Within days of each other I got emails from two men who were police detectives.\u00a0 And then two men who surfed. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And I cannot tell you how many men who are in the\u00a0 movie industry in\u00a0 one way or another are on the online website.\u00a0\u00a0 A few actors (yea… duh! we’re in Hollywood!)\u00a0 But also guys who build\/design the sets, guys in the editing process in some way or guys in the location finding industry.\u00a0 So I had the extra fun of seeing Avatar with someone who’d worked on the movie.\u00a0 Which was really cool until you see the AMOUNT of people who worked on the film in the ending credits!\u00a0 WOW!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But the biggest pattern I’m finding is when I follow my instincts in this dating adventure.\u00a0 I am NOT choosing based on their pictures or their bragging or their hot bodies.\u00a0 I know pictures don’t often do justice to how a person looks.\u00a0 And when I click well with a man they get very sexy to me. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But now that I’ve just about met every man I was interested in meeting from the online service (no new ones now that I’ve closed the profile to incoming.. hallelujah!<\/em>) I find myself choosing who I spend time with based a little on three things.. how well we click as friends, how well we click sexually and how much they desire me. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

When I get an email that says.. “I’m sorry if I’m stalking you, but…”<\/em> I think to myself.. STALK AWAY!\u00a0\u00a0 “Keepers” are the ones who think of me often and want to do more than\u00a0 just play in the bedroom.\u00a0\u00a0 Yes, lets go for a ride on your sports bike.\u00a0 Yes, lets go see that indy band playing at that club.\u00a0 Yes, lets go see an action flick.\u00a0 Yes, lets try paintball or go bowling.\u00a0 Yes, lets watch our favorite comedy shows together.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Hmm, sounds like I want to be a girlfriend, you say?\u00a0 Ahhh, but I don’t.\u00a0 I want to be a fun companion who happens to be a girl.\u00a0 A girl you get to be intimate with.\u00a0 Girlfriends come with baggage (do you love me?)<\/em> and expectations (where is this relationship going?)<\/em> and I don’t want to walk that road or be that girl.\u00a0 (Although I will admit I’d love to meet & hang with a man and his friends, but I think that’s because I want to make them envious of him.\u00a0 Digest THAT Freud!<\/em>)
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‘Cause I like men.\u00a0 I enjoy their company and I’m often more myself around them.\u00a0 I love flirting with them and indulging my desire to connect to another person through touch.\u00a0 Let’s face it… as much as my girlfriends love me and we hug each other, none of them are going to let me caress them!\u00a0 And men like it when I shock them with my attitude and stories, where women tend to judge me more because they don’t think like I do.
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