{"id":1267,"date":"2010-06-04T09:40:35","date_gmt":"2010-06-04T16:40:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1267"},"modified":"2025-11-03T10:04:48","modified_gmt":"2025-11-03T17:04:48","slug":"not-exciting-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1267","title":{"rendered":"Not Exciting Enough"},"content":{"rendered":"

Well, it finally happened.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I finally got naked with a very sexy man and I<\/em> wasn’t hot\u00a0 enough.\u00a0 Not hot enough to do what we’d both planned on doing that night.
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To me it was comical.\u00a0 Because lets face it, I’m 47.\u00a0 I’ve had 3 children with 3 c-section births.\u00a0 I work out at the gym but I’m not naturally athletic and I’ve only been doing the workouts for 3 years.\u00a0 I look very hot in the right clothes, but you probably won’t ever catch me in a bikini!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

So it was only a matter of time in my dating adventures that I’d spend the night with a man who could engage me\u00a0 in hours of\u00a0 conversation, naked, and not get an erection.\u00a0 And no, he’s very much NOT gay!
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My intuition was sensing this from him, ” that he liked me as a person, found me interesting and cute, but also found\u00a0 me not really that sexually exciting.”\u00a0 And he needed that, to get his participating member hard.\u00a0 And due to his lack of response I found my desire to seduce him almost non-existent.\u00a0 I don’t mind seducing a man who is contemplating sleeping with me, teasing a man who wants<\/em> to sleep with me.\u00a0 But seducing a man who’s reluctant to sleep with me.. well, no woman wants to expend the energy.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

So I drove all the way out to him, too late for dinner or outside activities.\u00a0 I gave him one of my enthusiastic, wonderful blow jobs and did NOT get an orgasm in return.\u00a0 I even slept over in hopes of morning wood.\u00a0 But alas, he’s such an anti-morning person there was no chance of that happening!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

What I DID get was the surprising encounter of the reality unexpectedly dashing the expected myth about erections out of the water.\u00a0 Most women assume men are always hard and horny and only their self control keeps them above rutting animals.\u00a0 No, ladies, we are wrong.\u00a0 So many factors that have nothing to do with us can affect that lovely hard-on.\u00a0 Stress, lack of sleep, performance anxiety, distraction, health and age can all affect it. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

This man was young (30’s), confidently successful, good looking with a nice physique.\u00a0 And my impression was the women <\/strong>he dated <\/strong>were in the naturally hot category.\u00a0 Most likely because of a combination of his looks, his success and his charisma.\u00a0 I am NOT automatically in that category.\u00a0 Who I<\/em> am in personality and uniqueness is what often tips me a little into that category for most men, but not all.\u00a0 And apparently this man was in the latter group.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

My point to you, ladies, is that MOST men will see beyond your imperfections when you do.\u00a0 If you see yourself as a Sex Goddess, they will also.\u00a0 Or most will… or better yet, the ones who find your confidence and sexuality exciting will.
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What’s amusing is the thought Mr. Charisma might be “worried” I’d call him!\u00a0 I’m far too selfish to waste my time on a non-orgasmic evening.\u00a0 Not for all the wealthy men in the world.<\/span>
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Well, it finally happened. I finally got naked with a very sexy man and I wasn’t hot\u00a0 enough.\u00a0 Not hot enough to do what we’d both planned on doing that night. To me it was comical.\u00a0 Because lets face it, … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1267","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-naughty-stuff"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1267","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1267"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1267\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3305,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1267\/revisions\/3305"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1267"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1267"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1267"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}