{"id":1934,"date":"2011-02-02T13:32:06","date_gmt":"2011-02-02T20:32:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1934"},"modified":"2011-02-02T13:32:06","modified_gmt":"2011-02-02T20:32:06","slug":"finding-the-positive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=1934","title":{"rendered":"Finding the Positive"},"content":{"rendered":"

So I went to the bank today to close out the joint account that my soon-to-be-Ex and I shared.\u00a0 And found it already closed.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Which was frankly amusing. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It had been mostly ignored by both of us for the last 5 months.\u00a0 (It only had $80 in it.)\u00a0 I had the checks and since Chase (assholes!) had linked this account with his business account he got the bank statements.\u00a0 Which was an irritant to my OCD compulsion to balance checking accounts with bank statements until I started online banking.\u00a0 Now I do without.\u00a0 (Yay, save a tree!)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

A month ago I went to see how difficult it would be to get this account, that neither of us use, separated from his business account so mail would stop going to his address.\u00a0 And found out I couldn’t do that but could close\u00a0 it.\u00a0 I also found out it had $80 in\u00a0 it instead of the $20 I thought it did.\u00a0\u00a0 So I chose at that moment NOT to close the account because I thought I should double check whether or not there was an outstanding check I should worry about.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Once home I saw there were no outstanding checks so I transferred\u00a0 a portion to my son Luke’s savings account and some to my son Evan’s account.\u00a0 And I was going to use the balance of $28 to open an account for our son Conor’s account.\u00a0 But life goes on and delay after delay, I finally got to this today.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Only to find it closed already. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Frankly, I found it more amusing than angering.\u00a0 Obviously the Ex had received the bank statement and saw two debits from the account and decided he was going to stop me from getting the rest of “his share”.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And since he doesn’t speak to me NOR consult me if he’s got a question on something he had no idea the money went to our children.\u00a0 Nor that he just took the $28 I was going to use to start our last son’s savings.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It’s just proof of his passive\/aggressive personality, and I refuse to sink to that level.\u00a0\u00a0 So I ponied up the money to start Conor’s savings out of my own funds and shrugged it off, laughing. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

My Ex has so much repressed anger at me, which makes me want to ask, “What?! You’re not happy living with your new girlfriend?!”<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Best of all.. in talking to the customer service guy at Chase and telling him how enthusiastic my oldest is in getting a job when he turns 14, I complained about how difficult it might be finding him something in this economy.\u00a0 And he pointed me to a group in Glendale that helps kids do exactly that!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I just smile.\u00a0 One account closes and another account opens.\u00a0 Employing my son when he’s 14 is soooo worth $28!
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