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<\/a>Life is sometimes this.<\/p><\/div>\n
I’ve observed there have been a lot of people in my life that “normals” would shy away from.\u00a0 (Including my Ex-husband in that group normals shy away from! lol)\u00a0 People with horrible pasts walking the straight & narrow & finding society making it harder than it had to be out of fear.\u00a0\u00a0 People who make personal choices different from what society thinks as normal (tattoos, hair styles, piercings, careers, personal entertainment).\u00a0 Or people who’ve made horrible choices, paid the price, learned the lesson and have come out whole, scarred but whole.<\/p>\n
I don’t always join in with the Fruits & Nuts & Flakes & Extremists crowd that often find me interesting, but I do add my own flavor of “outside the box” to the mix.\u00a0 And through our uniqueness we enjoy life.\u00a0 Celebrating it on a different level than others.<\/p>\n
Does that make me\/us bad?\u00a0 Does it make us rebels?\u00a0 Does it make us the dregs of society?\u00a0 Just because we choose different paths?\u00a0 Does choosing “Outside the Box” mean we are “Outside Society”, as in not part of it?\u00a0 To be shunned as unloved?\u00a0 Can no one love without the conditions of society or expectation of perfection?<\/p>\n
Unconditional love is a complicated thing.\u00a0 On the one hand can any of us truly love without conditions?\u00a0 So many feel that to do so will open them up to hurt, scams and humiliation.\u00a0 Others feel our very nature (fault ridden as it is) makes it an impossible feat.\u00a0 Yet I think its our highest calling as humans.<\/p>\n
And its not as impossible as you think.\u00a0 It means knowing the person in the NOW.\u00a0 As a changing entity, shaped by the past & their choices, but not necessarily ruled by them.\u00a0 And forgiving\/moving past\/ignoring the things\/actions\/choices of their past.\u00a0 Especially if they no longer apply to the person they are NOW.<\/p>\n
Of course, you must do this in a way that isn’t foolish.\u00a0 If a man has beaten you, you can love him unconditionally, but you may need to do it far away from arms reach!\u00a0 Because loving someone doesn’t mean you need to take whatever shit they dole out.\u00a0 You don’t have to believe the liar, give to the user personality or take the shit of the asshole.\u00a0 Forgive the past, but only trust if it no longer applies to the now.<\/p>\n
Also you must do the same for the opposite of judging the past.\u00a0 You should not put all your needs, unspoken or spoken, for emotional feedback on the individual you love.\u00a0 And all your hopes and dreams and financial security shouldn’t be placed in the hands of your love!\u00a0 Your love is there to love.\u00a0 To share and express the feelings that person’s company brings to you.\u00a0 THAT is Unconditional Love.\u00a0 Enjoying yourself having love for another.\u00a0 Often, faults and all.\u00a0 We do that for our kids.\u00a0 We (mostly) do that for our parents.\u00a0 Why is it we cannot do that for our mates?<\/p>\n
I’ve seen a lot of people claim to do this.\u00a0 And put it mostly into practice with easy to love individuals.\u00a0 But not everyone can love those that society disapproves of, or actively hates.<\/p>\n
But I gotta tell you, closing yourself off from these without giving them a chance….\u00a0 well, you’re missing out on some really interesting people.<\/p>\n
Although, I’m not sure I could take this to the level of loving Joseph Kony!<\/p>\n
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