{"id":317,"date":"2009-07-09T10:28:02","date_gmt":"2009-07-09T17:28:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=317"},"modified":"2025-11-08T09:30:06","modified_gmt":"2025-11-08T16:30:06","slug":"selective-memory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=317","title":{"rendered":"Selective Memory"},"content":{"rendered":"

I recently reconnected with my sister.\u00a0 Don’t misunderstand…we aren’t fighting or feuding or anything of that sort.\u00a0 We’re just busy.\u00a0 She’s got two little ones still at the dependent stage and me…well you all know how crazy my life is.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But last week she called to ask an innocent question and actually had the time to be tortured on the phone by me.\u00a0 (And those who’ve had me on the phone know the black hole of time talking to me creates.)\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And it was wonderful.\u00a0 We talked for less than an hour but managed to catch up on so much and re-connect in a way that both of us treasured.\u00a0 And I had an epiphany.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I’d forgotten how much I like, really\u00a0LIKE\u00a0my sister.\u00a0 Don’t get me wrong…I love the girl (little sister in every way except height… thin, blond, beautiful… a tanned beach goddess), she’s my only sister so its natural.\u00a0 But we’re different in a lot of our personal beliefs… religion, politics, the usual stuff.\u00a0\u00a0 And I had let those differences turn our relationship into “friendly across a divide.”<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

At our core, I look like my mother but take a lot after my father.\u00a0 My sister is the opposite.\u00a0 But my parents made pretty good “partners” even if not the best spouses to each other so my sister and I compliment each other.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

She is the endless energy and I’m the sedentary observer.\u00a0 She’s the one the men\u00a0approach and I’m the one seducing them to the table.\u00a0\u00a0 She has everything property cleaned, decorated and stylish while I’m often mismatched (although less now), let the boys\u00a0be well, boys and have a bit of clutter on almost every surface.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But in all our opposites, she’s my sister.\u00a0\u00a0 She’s only 5 years younger than me and with both of us now in our 40’s…well that mid-life thing, ya’ll know.\u00a0\u00a0 I’m actually moving closer to her attitude in life…gym, stylish presentation, where’s the party\/event\/social gathering.\u00a0 I can only wonder if she’s gaining some of my past perspective…the ‘shit happens’ attitude or the ‘I’m so tired I just want to stay home’ philosophy!<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know about all that\u00a0but I do know I’m not going to let the divide chasm open again.\u00a0 She admitted she prefers to stay in contact with people over the Internet because she can answer at 11pm when she has a moment…(yes, she’s the night owl and I’m the morning person) so I’ve made it a point to fire one off to her at least weekly.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, she can always check the blog to stay in touch.\u00a0 But of course, in all those opposites, which one of us do you think disapproves of promiscuous behavior!<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I recently reconnected with my sister.\u00a0 Don’t misunderstand…we aren’t fighting or feuding or anything of that sort.\u00a0 We’re just busy.\u00a0 She’s got two little ones still at the dependent stage and me…well you all know how crazy my life is. … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-317","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-the-joy-of-family"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/317","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=317"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/317\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3452,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/317\/revisions\/3452"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=317"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=317"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=317"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}