A snoring tool supposedly but too perfect for this post!<\/p><\/div>\n
Anyway, that was mostly directed to women. This one is more directed to men. Because I find they often are conflicted on how to act or ask with a myriad of questions rolling through their minds. Probably because of how rare and therefor treasured getting a BJ has become in their minds.<\/p>\n
I’ve had many candid talks with men about what goes through their minds and quite often several things stand out.<\/p>\n
1.\u00a0 How to Ask for A Blowjob.<\/strong> <\/em>\u00a0 Honestly, guys, you don’t.\u00a0 It is probably already a part of the foreplay between you and your loved one without any asking ever having come up.\u00a0 And if it isn’t its an easy subject to drop hints about.\u00a0 But approach the subject as part of the “clothes on” foreplay ALL men should be practicing [mmmmm… I sense another blog on THAT subject..]\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 While touching and kissing her at the beginning of sex, mention things like how sexy her lips are, how seeing her lips on your cock is a huge turn on.\u00a0 And then caveat the request with, “Its just a hot fantasy of mine.”<\/p>\n This puts the choice up to her and she’ll easily pick up on hints.\u00a0 Women are geared to be intuitive cuz we have to decipher baby speak as mothers and sometimes your grunt speak.\u00a0 Look how we analyze a simple text of “Hey”!\u00a0 And many women enjoy giving a man his fantasy when they care about his pleasure.\u00a0 So if she’s NOT choosing to take you into her mouth you need to ask yourself, “Is there a reason?”<\/p>\n Moving past the possibilities of trouble in your relationship or she’s exhausted or doesn’t feel you’ve put in enough foreplay to put her in the mood for it….. Make sure you have clean hygiene.\u00a0\u00a0 Maybe she’s turned off by the shaved or unshaven look.\u00a0\u00a0 And you can ask her these things if do it by going into what I call “girlfriend mode”\u00a0 Kind of a Do-These-Pants-Make-Me-Fat moment.\u00a0\u00a0 Go over to her and ask,\u00a0 “Hey babe, should I shave my balls?\u00a0 I’m thinking of shaving my balls, what do you think?”<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0\u00a0 I Want to Enjoy it But my Mind Won’t Turn Off<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0\u00a0 This is a particular issue in a new relationship or with young guys.\u00a0 Because they are torn between “what’s expected” and “what their body wants”.\u00a0\u00a0 And this is really the meat of the blog.\u00a0\u00a0 You need to be expressing how much you are enjoying this every moment she’s doing it.\u00a0 Find what auditory sounds works best for you but be vocal.\u00a0 For instance…\u00a0 Phat Boy always tells me how much he adores what I’m doing but then begins to voice phrases that either work for him or he thinks work for me.\u00a0 “You love that cock in your mouth, don’t you,” is his favorite phrase.\u00a0 It doesn’t turn me off but it also doesn’t turn me on.\u00a0 Its really an acting line or\u00a0 roll playing wordage and if there was going to be roll playing it would not be with him the dominant position.\u00a0 Sex God, on the other hand, moans and gasps and cusses in a way that makes me want to torment him with my tongue & find every spot on him that brings more noises like THAT outa him.\u00a0 So if you want her to do it for a long time you MUST give her auditory incentive.\u00a0 I really cannot express this aspect of sexual intercourse enough on both sides.\u00a0 And really give her an auditory reward if she finishes you.\u00a0 When Tasty Man cums he sounds the way I image The Hulk would sound having an orgasm.\u00a0 Incredible!\u00a0 (yes, I just did that pun, get over it!)<\/p>\n 3.\u00a0 She did it once but now barely does it.\u00a0 How do I prevent this?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0 Now for an older man I suggest you play\u00a0 on the “your soft lips do more than porn to get me hard” kind of reasoning.\u00a0\u00a0 But you’re most likely going to cum only once unless you’re utilizing pharmaceuticals and you really want to save that for the end of sex as its subconsciously pleasing to the woman to enjoy your release as much as you do.\u00a0 IF she’s already had her orgasm(s).\u00a0 So I suggest making this a regular part of the foreplay.<\/p>\n But for the young man who often cum quite quickly and is ready to go again and cum again within an hour.. I suggest you set it in your mind to enjoy it for 5 minutes the first time your lady goes down on you, moaning about her skill all the way.\u00a0 Hype it up in your mind and cum as fast as you can.\u00a0 But you MUST, if you can, at some point PRIOR to this, see if you can negotiate where you plan on putting it. lol\u00a0 THAT is always helpful!<\/p>\n And why this suggestion?\u00a0\u00a0 Think of it from her perspective.\u00a0 She likes\/wants to please you but having your mouth open for a long period of time can be painful and boring and remember SHE may be dealing with thoughts of… “Am I doing this right?\u00a0 Does he like it?\u00a0 How long should I be doing this move or this one or this one?”\u00a0\u00a0 Sooooo… if the first time she gives you a blowjob you give lots of voice feedback and cum quickly she’ll probably agree to it more easily.\u00a0 It may become part of the regular foreplay routine.\u00a0\u00a0 And you can always subtly take a liiiiitttle longer to cum each time.\u00a0 Assuming you have that much control!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A while back I wrote a blog titled How & Why to Give a Blowjob.\u00a0 I’d put a link to it, but since I got hacked a few months ago things with the blog have been quirky.\u00a0 lol\u00a0 So, well… … Continue reading