{"id":540,"date":"2009-08-16T07:41:48","date_gmt":"2009-08-16T14:41:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=540"},"modified":"2025-11-07T10:32:36","modified_gmt":"2025-11-07T17:32:36","slug":"nothing-says-i-love-you-better-than-a-blow-job","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=540","title":{"rendered":"Nothing says ‘I Love you’ better than a Blow Job"},"content":{"rendered":"

Okay, warning to everyone.\u00a0 The following blog may be a little too… EXPLICIT!\u00a0 It’s why I’m using a softer color… I’m in hushed tones.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

It has been asked if I ever did “experiment” with my perceived new abilities in oral sex I mentioned in the blog GNO-Orlando and how would “Cat” give a blow job.\u00a0 Well this blog will address both those questions.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

First off, for those you have not read my book.\u00a0 Cat is the Urban Cougar character of my book.\u00a0 She teaches a new crop of 21-22 year olds every month how to succeed at seduction.\u00a0\u00a0 And she’s done a lot of oral sex.\u00a0 But I wrote her over a year ago and time changes a lot of things.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

So would Cat do a blow job differently than most.\u00a0 Probably, due to sheer experience.\u00a0 But also because she enjoys it.\u00a0 And details have been asked for.\u00a0 Which coincides with my newest experience.\u00a0 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step one… find the right position to do this in.\u00a0 If this is just foreplay it won’t matter what position but if this is to completion the position should be comfortable for you.\u00a0 No… not for him, for you.\u00a0 He’s going to love this no matter what and even though you will enjoy it also… it is still work for you.\u00a0 I find it less comfortable if he’s lying on his back on the bed.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I also found if he’s sitting on the edge of the bed, I can comfortably sit on the floor, but I don’t have great access to his ass or balls.\u00a0 (This has the same problem if you’re doing him in the car while he’s driving due to the pants he’s wearing AND that damned steering wheel… unless he’s a TALL man with long arms away from the wheel!)<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

My personal favorite… lean him up against a wall, put a hard padded pillow on the floor and get on your knees.\u00a0 You can caress and gently scratch (Cat loves her nails) his ass, balls, thighs and abs all you want.\u00a0 And I’ll have two hands free, the bed position leaves one hand holding my weight, not to mention I’ll have to get a hair tie to keep it out of the way.\u00a0 Not necessary for the wall position.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step two… lollipop anticipation.\u00a0 Torture him with your tongue and hands long before you actually take him into your mouth.\u00a0 And keep your hands right near your mouth because your spit is the best lubricant and you can surreptitiously swipe a tongue along your palm to get it nice and wet.\u00a0 Although you could hold his gaze and run your tongue straight up your hand to pre-lube.\u00a0 Watch his eyes get a little wide at the action.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Your hand is half the work, ladies.\u00a0 No matter how much you can take you cannot take ALL of him in, over and over in a ‘fucking’ motion very well.\u00a0 This is where the well placed hand is a necessity and it needs the lubrication of your saliva to move smoothly.\u00a0 Because you will need the occasional break of almost pulling out to rest your jaw and you should have your hands there ready for it.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

And don’t miss the opportunity to suck one of his balls into your mouth.\u00a0 You get such a wonderful ‘shape’ sensation when you do that.\u00a0 Much more than you can with caressing them.\u00a0 And never neglect nails along the pubic hair.\u00a0 Scratch your own nails along your pubic hair and imagine\u00a0matching that\u00a0sensation for him.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step three… enjoy that taste.\u00a0 I didn’t hate but also didn’t like much the taste of men in my 20’s and 30’s but boy has that changed in my 40’s.\u00a0 You might truly surprise yourself if this isn’t something you’ve done in a long while.\u00a0 Taste buds change ladies!\u00a0 And it makes complete sense that as I’ve moved into my sexual peak my taste buds would suddenly love the taste of men.\u00a0 And my gag reflex is so much less than it was!!\u00a0 Testing that out was truly fun and well, rather eye-popping for the testee!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step four… careful use of teeth.\u00a0 Don’t run them along length of his cock.\u00a0 Gently run them left to right along the top lip or crest\u00a0of the head of his cock.\u00a0 If you’re doing 69 you would use your tongue but if you’re in my favorite position you would use your upper teeth.\u00a0 And then scrape them gently along the head of his cock during the few times you need to rest your jaw.\u00a0 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

The length of his cock loves it when you tighten your lips completely around him on the pull up, creating almost a suction sensation.\u00a0 Alternate this with curling your tongue around him on a few up and downs and flattening your tongue along his underside on a few more.\u00a0\u00a0 NEVER neglect the Butterfly Flick which is flicking your tongue across the vein along the underside of his cock opposite the crest of\u00a0 his cockhead.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

If you align your head in just the right way your back molars can caress his sides when you deep-throat him.\u00a0 Those should be done in short motions once you get him down there to space your breathing and make sure he doesn’t accidentally go in at an angle and impact those molars.\u00a0 That might hurt… \u00a0him!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step five… (God will the steps never end!)\u00a0 Speed is relative and should be based on HIS sounds.\u00a0 So before or while you’re stripping him and telling him he’s getting a blow job (watch his face light up!) you firmly tell him you’re expecting him to be completely vocal about it.\u00a0 You want him to moan or say “yeah, oh yeah” or cuss and most of all you want him to tell you how close he is.\u00a0 I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to pull off due to my own jaw stamina only to hear the words, “Oh… I was almost there.”\u00a0 Hell, boy!\u00a0 Let me know!\u00a0 I’m not any more telepathic than you are!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

So… good lines for men to use… although you can insert your own personal expletives.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 “God your mouth.”\u00a0 “That hot little mouth.”\u00a0 “Oh yeah, OMG”\u00a0 “Yes, right there, shit!”\u00a0 “Sweet Jesus your tongue…”\u00a0\u00a0“So close,\u00a0shit!”\u00a0\u00a0 And getting them out through gritted teeth better than quietly whispering them afraid the world will hear you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Words will maximize the pleasure on both your ends.\u00a0 If I hear the word ‘close’ out of his mouth\u00a0I’m pulling out all the big guns and working the speed.\u00a0 Because I enjoy his pleasure as much as getting off myself.\u00a0 Also because being a compulsive completer… I get excited about finishing a task!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Step six… I haven’t been able to swallow with him in my mouth \u00a0WHILE he’s coming.\u00a0 I can hold it in my mouth and milk him with my tongue while he’s coming (more eye-ball rolling into the back of his head) but once he’s done I had to bring my mouth almost off him before I could swallow.\u00a0 Be prepared for this.\u00a0 Better to keep him in your mouth while he’s ejaculating and swallow him after.\u00a0 Unless you’d rather wear it!\u00a0 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Lastly I want to mention why men love blow jobs.\u00a0 Because it is sex that is just about them.\u00a0 You might think that they’re only interested in their own orgasm when they are having sex with you but they aren’t.\u00a0 They WANT to know they are\u00a0 pleasing you, they want to give you as many orgasms as they can (caveat… as they CAN) and they will often work hard NOT to come until they’ve done all they can to do that.\u00a0 That is pretty self-sacrificial.\u00a0 Most men could probably come a lot faster with sex than you realize but they are trying very hard NOT to so you get as much pleasure as they’re getting.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

So when they get a blow job all the pleasure is for them.\u00a0 Trust me, they truly appreciate the sentiment.\u00a0 And if you can give him little noises that you’re enjoying this too, well he’s even happier.\u00a0\u00a0 If you really want to make his night… ask him what blow job fantasies he’s ever had.\u00a0 Most men won’t play dominant to you during a blow job because they’re terrified if\u00a0THEY suggest any deviation from what YOU’RE planning you’ll change your mind and they won’t get it.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

So BJ’m on his birthday but on Valentines Day… ask him if he’d like you to do it in costume or with ropes!\u00a0 Who wears the ropes is between the two of you!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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