{"id":749,"date":"2009-11-15T08:05:48","date_gmt":"2009-11-15T15:05:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=749"},"modified":"2025-11-06T09:26:23","modified_gmt":"2025-11-06T16:26:23","slug":"dominance-in-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=749","title":{"rendered":"Dominance"},"content":{"rendered":"

For those of you who have read Cat or have spent time discussing sex with me, you know my own personal fantasies involve dominant males in sex.\u00a0\u00a0 I look back on my dating\/sexual history trying to find instances where I’ve had sex with dominant men.\u00a0\u00a0I came up with a blank.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I wondered about that.\u00a0 Was I too dominant myself to allow the male to “rise” to the occasion?\u00a0 Was I not into dominant males back then?\u00a0 Was I more about proving to the male I was good in bed than asking for my own fantasy?\u00a0 Did I know or have fantasies back then?<\/span><\/p>\n

Wait… wait, its coming back to me.\u00a0 Yes I had fantasies but they were about love.\u00a0 Now my fantasies are just about sex.\u00a0 But why the fantasy of sex in a dominant situation?\u00a0 After all… that can be dangerous if not done with the right person.\u00a0 Many males assume dominant means aggressive or rough, macho with the “cook me dinner, woman” attitude.\u00a0\u00a0 (Screw that, I say, cook me breakfast!)<\/span><\/p>\n

So in analyzing myself (and you know people, I’m always analyzing myself…. I’m my favorite subject… no, sex is my favorite subject… okay me and sex are my favorite subjects…. wait… what was I talking about? \u00a0Oh yes, NOW I remember.)\u00a0 I began to analyze my dominant fantasy scenes\u00a0and I realized it was giving me more than orgasms, it was giving me a level of emotional satisfaction.\u00a0 (Fascinating… says Spock.. or if you watch The Big Bang Theory…Fascinating, says Sheldon.)<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u00a0AM a dominant female.\u00a0 I can easily dominate a sexual situation and I thoroughly enjoy seducing another individual.\u00a0 I am also excessively competent and in charge, every day of my life.\u00a0 Which is why letting go completely to a male in charge brings a sigh of pleasure to my lips.\u00a0 The fantasy of not making a single decision in a seduction and not knowing what will happen next is enticing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course you have to have the right dominant male, one who does it with strength and not fear, a seduction not a rape.\u00a0\u00a0 And it has been suggested to me that the Cougars won’t find that in the young 22 year olds.\u00a0 That this is something that comes to a male with age and confidence.\u00a0 Of course, that opinion came from a male over his 40’s!<\/span><\/p>\n

I guess I’ll just have to do a little “research”….<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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