{"id":793,"date":"2009-11-17T10:04:14","date_gmt":"2009-11-17T17:04:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=793"},"modified":"2025-11-06T09:26:09","modified_gmt":"2025-11-06T16:26:09","slug":"sex-update-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=793","title":{"rendered":"Dating Update 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m so behind on blogging but I have the best, most wonderful excuse!\u00a0 So wonderful most of you already know this already.\u00a0 I wasn’t sure I could blog about this but I’ve been outed on it to family\u00a0so might as well.<\/strong>\u00a0 (Panic NOT… names have been\u00a0 omited to protect the naughty…heehee)<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0So I’m free to be single and as I cruised along on UrbanCougar.com I clicked on the link for the dating service advertised there…CougarConnection.com.\u00a0 Eithne had finally taken some good pix with just this in mind and I was armed.\u00a0 So I joined and filled out the profile.\u00a0 Which was endless!\u00a0 Question after question about preferences and lifestyle and goals, etc.\u00a0 You know me, guys, I’m a compulsive completer!\u00a0 But by 11p I had to call it quits and go to bed.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

I figured since I hadn’t completed it I would do it tomorrow, then see what the site had to offer,\u00a0no rush.\u00a0 Its not like I wasn’t going to take my time looking through the available choices, but I never got the chance.\u00a0 To this day (almost 3 weeks later…hey I’ve been BUSY!) I’ve never had the chance to even figure out how to do that!<\/strong><\/p>\n

But that next morning, after setting up the profile…a Friday mind you…\u00a0 I went online to the site and noticed I was actually on something called Passion.com.\u00a0 I barely paid that any mind because I had 9 emails in my inbox.\u00a0 Less than 9 hours since I’d posted my profile.\u00a0 By the end of the day I had 15!\u00a0 And its been a part-time job ever since!\u00a0 I swear I need a secretary and flow charts!\u00a0 Oh and graphs… I really need graphs!<\/strong><\/p>\n

But I can only blame myself.\u00a0 The site has pre-written quick responses but they’re so impersonal.\u00a0 I’ve been answering every email.\u00a0 Because some of these guys you just want to pat on the head in sorrow and say, “I’m sorry… even WITH Viagra I’m not going to do ya, no matter what you SAY you’re going to do to me.”\u00a0 Like that’s NEVER been done to me before!\u00a0 And I believe in action more than words…. although the right words do things to me that sometimes action never does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mmmmmm…..Sorry… I got sidetracked by my imagination… she’s been on OVERload!\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

I spent that first week answering emails and sorting the lovely requests to meet into categories of Yes, No, Maybe Later and Where’s your picture.\u00a0 I’ve since added one called Deciding, where I put those ones I just can’t decide on.\u00a0\u00a0 And I started scheduling lunch dates.\u00a0 Last week I met 6 men had 1 no show (Oh and you know me.. Ms. efficient slipped a back up into his slot!) and 2 cancellations (by then I was thankful I had the extra time!)\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

And these were very, very nice men.\u00a0 I did not sleep with them….. all. (hee hee) But I did finally get my itch scratched very, very well.\u00a0\u00a0 I made sure I checked all freezer’s for serial killer trophy heads and I’m happy to report, found none.\u00a0 So you can all stop panicking!<\/strong><\/p>\n

This week I’ve learned from the no show and I’m confirming all lunch dates.\u00a0 Those that don’t confirm get cancelled because there are other men to meet.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

Note to all though<\/em>.\u00a0 To reassure my girls and friends.\u00a0 I’m picky on who I’ll sleep with so I’m not running just any train through the station.\u00a0 But I want more than one Friend With Benefits so I don’t get attached.\u00a0 Every man wants to be special and every woman does also but sometimes its just not practical.\u00a0 And for my current life, its not.\u00a0 And the only way to tell if this person I really, really get along with well, will work, is to test him in the bedroom.\u00a0 Before that there must be chemistry. And to see if there is any chemistry…. I gotta meet them first.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

Besides there are only so many Friday and Saturday nights!\u00a0 I can meet 5 men a week but only sleep with 2 on the weekends.\u00a0 There’s a lot of men waiting!\u00a0\u00a0 And whats surprising is the ones you didn’t think you hit it well with, hit it out of the park in the bedroom.\u00a0 So sometimes there is no judging.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

With all that said…. I do have my favorites… oh yes.. my favorites. 8)<\/strong><\/p>\n

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