One of the funnest parts of “My New Life”\u00a0are the compliments.\u00a0 (Hey… I did say, ONE OF!\u00a0 Heehee)<\/p>\n
Other than the obvious compliment of the number of men who find me interesting or attractive or well.. hopefully easy… are the shocked and pleased expression on the faces of the men I choose to meet when they see me.\u00a0\u00a0 Either they have had many, many moments of let down (which I gather is something of the norm on the site I’m playing on)\u00a0 or they just don’t believe me when I tell them I’m not that easy to “capture” on film.<\/p>\n
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at I study each pix I’m sent to see if maybe, just maybe.. he’s a crappy photography with his cell phone in his bathroom because its’ the only mirror big enough to try and ensure a somewhat decent shot!\u00a0 Not everyone has a good friend who has an eye for lighting… or has figured out the webcam on her laptop!<\/p>\n
Ironically we learned picture taking personally from a irritating nag at a party who kept telling us to hold the camera above our heads to get a shot angled downward.\u00a0 Don’t you hate it when obnoxious people are right…. oh well, I <\/em>benefited.<\/p>\n So I’m planning two blogs for the site I’m playing on (heretofor known as The Site).\u00a0 One is advice for the newbie and one is my theories on the people who flake.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Amazingly I’ve only been on The Site for 4 weeks but its been a baptism of fire, let me tell you!<\/p>\n And I’ll tell you more in another blog.\u00a0 This one is about lovely compliments and the best one I received just the other day.<\/p>\n It is\u00a0an incredible compliment that men find me hot at 46 after 3 kids and even more of a compliment that they find me interesting and fun and want to spend more than just bedroom time with me.\u00a0\u00a0 Okay…. well, talk time in between bedroom time… let’s be honest!<\/p>\n Yet in a chat about motivations and situations one man\u00a0told me\u00a0that I have a gift for blending.\u00a0 When I’m with a 40 year old, I’m 40… when I’m with a 30 year old, I’m 30 and when I’m with a 24 year old, I’m 24.\u00a0 And I realized he is spot on.\u00a0 I sat\u00a0on my couch in amazement and looked at my past.\u00a0 Friendships, relationships, family dynamics… I’m always tailoring myself to the situation.\u00a0 The more a person finds me interesting and fascinating the more I find a person interesting and fascinating.\u00a0 The more a person needs me the more I’m there for a person.\u00a0 The more a person needs\u00a0 space the more space I give them.<\/p>\n And it was wonderful to realize this about myself.\u00a0 1.. What a cool thing to give a character!\u00a0\u00a0 2.. It explained so much about\u00a0why I need an small audience when I start telling funny stories… really hard to tailor anything to the mass audience, no feedback.\u00a0 And 3… it also explained why\u00a0when I get feedback that someone finds me interesting I don’t have a problem making them a friend.\u00a0 They obviously have great taste\u00a0since I’m well aware\u00a0I’m not\u00a0a taste everyone enjoys.<\/p>\n Ahhh, but\u00a0The Site is giving me a whole new playground for this.\u00a0 I’ve met people who find me interesting and I don’t find them\u00a0interesting.\u00a0 So I’m not ruled by their\u00a0feedback interest.\u00a0 And I’ve met people who I got little feedback from\u00a0regarding their interest and they surprised me when I\u00a0called them on it by expressing it double.\u00a0 AND I’ve gotten people who express much interest yet never follow thru on that.<\/p>\n I have learned to feel when a man is into me and when he’s not.\u00a0 EVEN if he proves me wrong on initial meeting with a passionate kiss… its the follow through that is the real “tell”.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 See even knowing how well I may “blend” with a person I’m still thoroughly and always me.<\/p>\n And lest any of you think I’m a pushover I’m also thoroughly and always… \u00a0very giving, slightly narcissistic and sometimes baffled by, but shrug it off, over the\u00a0choices of others.\u00a0 Which is par for the course since I often baffle others over my choices and motivations.<\/p>\n Ah but its what makes me unique…. and I’m rather proud that I’m different than every other cookie cut woman.<\/p>\n Of course you have to have serious chops to buck the norm happily and successfully without alienating all the norm… but I love the challenge of it.\u00a0\u00a0 Besides… I can usually win them over!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" One of the funnest parts of “My New Life”\u00a0are the compliments.\u00a0 (Hey… I did say, ONE OF!\u00a0 Heehee) Other than the obvious compliment of the number of men who find me interesting or attractive or well.. hopefully easy… are the … Continue reading