{"id":845,"date":"2009-12-05T08:26:06","date_gmt":"2009-12-05T15:26:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=845"},"modified":"2025-11-06T09:17:10","modified_gmt":"2025-11-06T16:17:10","slug":"the-selfless-lover","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=845","title":{"rendered":"The Selfless Lover"},"content":{"rendered":"

I recently had a wonderful experience with a man who was a very selfless lover.\u00a0 It was both interesting and irritating at the same time.\u00a0\u00a0 He was truly a “giver,” eager to bring out as many sighs, groans, & orgasms as possible from me.\u00a0\u00a0 I realized somewhere in the middle of all of it that he was getting deep satisfaction from my satisfaction.\u00a0 And I knew exactly how he felt.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

One\u00a0 of my favorite parts of sex is when the male climaxes.\u00a0 Sharing in his ultimate pleasure brings a certain joy to me.\u00a0 It’s the whipped cream (wink) and maraschino cherry on top of the glorious sex.\u00a0\u00a0 Of course it was even more fun when this selfless lover climaxed and collapsed, practically passing out!\u00a0 So at my mercy.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But through all his lovely and wonderful attentions there was a part of me that would have preferred at least some of the time to feel him take his pleasure FROM\u00a0 me… not just give me pleasure.\u00a0 And there is a subtle difference there.\u00a0 When I realized my feelings I wondered at them, looked at it from all sides and what it said about me.\u00a0 I speculated my love of touching and tasting a man is me being a ‘giver of pleasure’\u00a0 and my desire for a dominant male is me wanting a man to “take” his pleasure from me.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And if I hadn’t experienced such a wonderful evening with such a selfless lover would I ever have learned this about myself?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Of course the real fun will be in convincing him to try it my way, next time!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I recently had a wonderful experience with a man who was a very selfless lover.\u00a0 It was both interesting and irritating at the same time.\u00a0\u00a0 He was truly a “giver,” eager to bring out as many sighs, groans, & orgasms … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-845","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-naughty-stuff"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/845","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=845"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/845\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3367,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/845\/revisions\/3367"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=845"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=845"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=845"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}