One of the questions I’m often asked (and forgot to fill in on my online dating profile) is what I’m looking for on my little adventure.\u00a0\u00a0 Yes, everyone assumes I’m looking for sex and that is a large part of the equation but only about 25% of it.\u00a0 What I’m really looking for is called FWB… Friends With Benefits.<\/p>\n
Now that is a nicely vague definition of a lover isn’t it!\u00a0 But as I started to play in this new pool I began to get a better idea of what I was looking for.\u00a0 And first off I’ll explain why I’m looking for more than one.<\/p>\n
No, I’m not being greedy!\u00a0 Or gluttonous!\u00a0 I’m protecting them and myself from drama.\u00a0 I know me (and often women in general here) and I can get just as easily attached to any man as a woman can.\u00a0 Even holding them at a distance or using logic… it won’t really matter.\u00a0 You’re brain will spend its quiet moments thinking about him and wondering what he’s doing.\u00a0 When are you going to get to see him again.\u00a0 Do you see the pitfall in this?<\/p>\n
When he’s the only ONE you’re looking forward to seeing he becomes a natural direction for the attachment process.\u00a0\u00a0 Your body will say… “hey, when are we going to have fun again?”\u00a0 and your brain will start to try to arrange that!\u00a0 And if its not often and he “rocked it” then a woman’s brain will start to whine that question.<\/p>\n
And before you know it… you are no longer the woman he found interesting.\u00a0 Instead you’re a pre-girlfriend wanna-be.<\/p>\n
I don’t like me when I turn into a pre-girlfriend wanna-be!\u00a0\u00a0 I like me when I’m just me.. not me with ridiculous expectations about “where this is going”.\u00a0 I’d rather the comfortableness that it is “going” no where.\u00a0 We’re just two people enjoying each others company.\u00a0\u00a0 To make sure I obtain that I plan on having several FWB’s to confuse the attachment process with lots of choices!<\/p>\n
So people accuse me of having “attachment issues”.\u00a0 Maybe, but perhaps your definition of attachment is different than mine.\u00a0 This is what I’m looking for in a FWB.<\/p>\n
Desire.\u00a0\u00a0 The desire to genuinely enjoy his company even out of bed.\u00a0 The desire to cross the room and strip him naked as fast as I can.\u00a0 The feeling of mutual respect between us.. me to him and knowing its there from him to me.\u00a0 And top it all off with a little fondness and affection.<\/p>\n
So I’m looking for my FWB = a\u00a0 genuine male friend that lusts me and I lust back with equal force.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 One down…. 6 or so to go!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
One of the questions I’m often asked (and forgot to fill in on my online dating profile) is what I’m looking for on my little adventure.\u00a0\u00a0 Yes, everyone assumes I’m looking for sex and that is a large part of … Continue reading