{"id":968,"date":"2010-01-28T13:00:26","date_gmt":"2010-01-28T20:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=968"},"modified":"2025-11-05T10:06:50","modified_gmt":"2025-11-05T17:06:50","slug":"fwb-vs-dirty-sexy-secret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=968","title":{"rendered":"FWB vs Dirty Sexy Secret"},"content":{"rendered":"

So I’m days away from closing my profile to incoming emails and taking stock of the interesting men I’ve met in the last 3 months.\u00a0\u00a0 OMG… I’m so looking forward to it!\u00a0 Don’t get me wrong.. I love that site and I’ll NEVER leave it, \ud83d\ude09\u00a0 But its addicting and distracting and I can’t enjoy the men I prefer because I’m too busy noticing the new men emailing me. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And I’m beginning to establish more of what I’m looking for in my mind.\u00a0 I realize that often I’ve felt more like a Dirty, Sexy Secret than an FWB.\u00a0 Don’t get me wrong… I don’t want to be anyone’s girlfriend or anyone’s “only one” but if you can’t be seen with me in public or are uncomfortable if I want to lust you in public, then we have a problem.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

The Friends part is important.\u00a0 Movies, dinner, the beach (although I may enjoy watching you sport in the water than actually join you there…\u00a0 I\u00a0 make a great “watch the stuff” girl lol!) a concert, dancing, even a play (although it better not be a musical!).\u00a0\u00a0 All these things add to the friendship without having to be a relationship.\u00a0 Because it allows us to enjoy each other in a way that is in addition to sex. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As much as sex is important to me, it’s not all of me.\u00a0 Humor is a BIG part of who I am.\u00a0 And enjoying the company of a person is also a big part of that as I’m something of an extrovert.\u00a0 Experiencing fun and interesting things an absolute MUST for 2010.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

The funny thing is, I don’t want to meet anyone’s family.\u00a0 I don’t necessarily want to meet anyone’s freinds, although THAT I’m not so opposed to as it could be fun.\u00a0 When I interviewed a bunch of 22 year olds at a BBQ a year ago for my book\u00a0we had a blast!\u00a0\u00a0 And I was reigning in all my Seduction Aura at the time!\u00a0 No\u00a0such leash these days… hee hee.\u00a0 Boggles the mind how much fun could be had with a group at a club. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Yet finding a few FBW’s held several steps.\u00a0\u00a0 Meeting them, enjoying them to see if the lust can translate into the bedroom and then seeing them again.\u00a0 I’d never managed to make it to the last stage!\u00a0 So when I realized my Silver Member ship was about to expire, which allows me to view profiles of men who’d emailed me, I took it as the perfect opportunity to close the door.\u00a0 Temporarily. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And now that its almost closing time I wonder if my FWB definition is different than theirs?\u00a0 Does their idea of an\u00a0FWB hold so much discretion that we only meet in hotels and never go out in public?\u00a0\u00a0 I think to myself.. I haven’t seen Avatar and would like to.\u00a0 Should I ask someone?\u00a0 Will they want to go?\u00a0\u00a0 And what if I win Coachella tix?\u00a0 Should I take a playmate?\u00a0 Who would go?\u00a0 Who would want to go?\u00a0 And would they try to play it discreet?\u00a0 (I’m starting to dislike that word.)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I have a free Vegas trip coming up.\u00a0 Planning on the summer as its mid-week and will be taking my long-suffering girlfriend who needs a few days away.. but I ask myself… would an FWB even want to go?\u00a0\u00a0 And would I want him to go or just go play in Vegas?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

lol… I can hear all of you laughing at the silliness of my thought process.\u00a0 Just be thankful I wrote this blog today and not the one I’d thought to write about Penis’s.\u00a0 (penii!\u00a0 Whatever!!)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So I’m days away from closing my profile to incoming emails and taking stock of the interesting men I’ve met in the last 3 months.\u00a0\u00a0 OMG… I’m so looking forward to it!\u00a0 Don’t get me wrong.. I love that site … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-968","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-naughty-stuff"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/968","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=968"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/968\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3350,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/968\/revisions\/3350"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=968"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=968"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=968"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}