{"id":5084,"date":"2022-05-07T22:25:21","date_gmt":"2022-05-08T05:25:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=5084"},"modified":"2022-07-01T22:57:57","modified_gmt":"2022-07-02T05:57:57","slug":"bumble-fumble","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.heatherbarton.com\/?p=5084","title":{"rendered":"Bumble Fumble"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yesterday I deleted my Bumble dating app account.   After one month of their Premium account I had been&#8230; 1. catfished (meaning the date I was supposed to go on disappeared before the day of the date from the site)&#8230;  2.  when I WOULD find a match then start a conversation&#8230;. the guy and\/or Bumble would let it expire and it went no where&#8230;. 3.  then I DO connect with a guy, actually meet in person, he seems nice and finds me wonderful and we exchange numbers and then&#8230;.. he ghosts me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How are these men &#8220;better&#8221; than the ones on the sex site?   At least with those men I have huge paragraphs that I can explain EXACTLY what I&#8217;m looking for and refer to every idiot who emails macho stupidity directly to those paragraphs.  Although I bet there is a level of crossover, site to site, who knows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I did notice a ridiculous amount of TALL men on Bumble.  So many 6&#8217;4&#8243;, 6&#8242; 2&#8243;&#8230; that is just too tall for a woman who is 5&#8217;1&#8243;!   And sometimes I&#8217;d take a chance on someone who would be a 30-45 minute drive instead of my usual &#8220;no farther than a 20 minute drive&#8221; limitation.   And I still ended up with the above results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And I blame the way the algorithm is set up completely.   Yes, we&#8217;re all busy people and Bumble acts like the solution to that is to NOT wait until you&#8217;ve have the TIME to respond or react or if you coincidentally swipe right at the same time THEY have swiped right&#8230;. because EVERYTHING IS TIMED!   Unless you pay extra for more time!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And their payment options are horrid!  Premium choices are $20-week, $40-month, $80-3 months OR &#8230; and here is the stupidity&#8230; $300 for Lifetime!   LIFETIME!!!!   How depressing is the success of this &#8220;dating&#8221; app if you&#8217;re using it FOR A LIFETIME!  <em> (Yes, yes, I know I&#8217;ve been on the sex site for over 15 years&#8230;. that&#8217;s DIFFERENT!) <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I&#8217;m not sure if I want to try Hinge.   Maybe in a month or two.  Or maybe I should try Tinder.   OR maybe I should just admit that perhaps I&#8217;ve aged out of sexy Heather Cougar.  Except when I did kiss that last guy, my libido perked right up and caressed his hard muscle arms and wanted more.  And the car ride home after that had my body humming.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sexy Heather Cougar is still in there&#8230; it just takes more to get her both interested and at the peak of arousal and there are fewer and fewer options to make that happen.     <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just before I deleted my account I informed Bumble about how and why I found their site both not worth the time or money and suggested they offer a $110 for the year option.  Haven&#8217;t heard anything but, honestly, I doubt the algorithm even logged it&#8230;. sigh.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yesterday I deleted my Bumble dating app account. 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