Anal Sex.
Yup.. that’s today’s subject. I’ve been meaning to write this for weeks. And if the thought of that makes you cringe.. skip this post. Because I’ve been exploring LOTS of things about my sexuality and, as usual, I’ve learned a lot that I just MUST share!
Decades ago (literally… sheesh I”m old.) I was coerced by a date to try sushi. Back then it was new and trendy and I’ve never been a trendy kind of girl. But I have been a person to try new things. So I went on this date and tried sushi for the first time. I came away from the dinner saying, “Well, that was interesting but I doubt I’ll ever WANT it.”
Three weeks later I found myself craving sushi… really craving it. I realize now that its the seaweed and the soy sauce salt content combined with the fish protein and that perfect side dish, rice. Which is why I don’t crave nor enjoy sushimi much. The point being that sometimes you can’t judge an experience by that first attempt or taste. Sometimes your body might surprise you if you give it another chance.
And so it went with me and anal sex. The very first attempt at this was (again) decades ago. And I couldn’t get enough pleasure to get past the pain. So we stopped and I pronounced that anal sex wasn’t for me. Almost 20 years later my mind and my body are in a different state. One night I’m enjoying a roll playing experience with a man who introduces me to an anal toy. At first I was skeptical but willing since he’s everything he’d done so far was very fun. And it wasn’t bad, even fun. But it was more of an added experience not as the main course.
Yet a week later my body wanted to experience it as the main course. The sensations were unique and I kept remembering them. Just like the sushi. So it wasn’t long before I was trying anal sex. And not long after that when I began to crave it. Because its an intensely wonderful experience.
Ahh.. but there are a few things I learned about anal sex that might help those who are new or who want to introduce it to their partners.
One.. anal sex is one of the few instances where size matters! Not to be gross, but look at the size of your average shit. It’s about the width of your average erection.. so you know your body can take that size. Yes, you probably can take larger, but don’t START your anal sex experience with a thick cock! WHAT have I told you about setting the bar too high!
Two… the best lube is your natural lube, especially when he’s wearing a condom. And unless you’re in a committed relationship, he’s always wearing a condom. (Although I did try it without once.. omg… THAT rocked!) In any case, sometimes adding lube is going to give you a bit of the runs the day after.
Three… BE IN CHARGE of it. Anal sex works best if the recipient leads. Most people do anal sex in some form of doggy style, so I find backing my body onto him is the best way to start the process. It allows me to go at a speed that keeps that initial pain/pleasure opening process at a level I’m happy with.
Four… most of the pleasure nerves seem to be near the opening and are direction sensitive. Long strokes in and out may be counterproductive and not necessary for her to reach orgasm. Shorter strokes may work much better. Because the out-stroke sometimes induces the need to stop.
Five.. how do you know you’ll enjoy this? If you’ve ever taken a shit and felt just that hint of pleasure doing it, you’ll probably enjoy anal sex. And if you’re a guy.. hello… prostate gland! There are wonderful prostate toys for men to enjoy while fucking their ladies. And the pleasure is truly unique. Just like a clitoral orgasm feels different than a vaginal one, so its the same with an anal orgasm. And yes.. my ass cums.
So to sum up… Anal Sex is Like Pot… you may not enjoy it the first few times you try it but don’t think it won’t work for you by the 3rd or 4th try! And yes, its a Gateway Vice… I’m so ready for my Dominatrix Outfit!