I recently reconnected with my sister. Don’t misunderstand…we aren’t fighting or feuding or anything of that sort. We’re just busy. She’s got two little ones still at the dependent stage and me…well you all know how crazy my life is.
But last week she called to ask an innocent question and actually had the time to be tortured on the phone by me. (And those who’ve had me on the phone know the black hole of time talking to me creates.)
And it was wonderful. We talked for less than an hour but managed to catch up on so much and re-connect in a way that both of us treasured. And I had an epiphany.
I’d forgotten how much I like, really LIKE my sister. Don’t get me wrong…I love the girl (little sister in every way except height… thin, blond, beautiful… a tanned beach goddess), she’s my only sister so its natural. But we’re different in a lot of our personal beliefs… religion, politics, the usual stuff. And I had let those differences turn our relationship into “friendly across a divide.”
At our core, I look like my mother but take a lot after my father. My sister is the opposite. But my parents made pretty good “partners” even if not the best spouses to each other so my sister and I compliment each other.
She is the endless energy and I’m the sedentary observer. She’s the one the men approach and I’m the one seducing them to the table. She has everything property cleaned, decorated and stylish while I’m often mismatched (although less now), let the boys be well, boys and have a bit of clutter on almost every surface.
But in all our opposites, she’s my sister. She’s only 5 years younger than me and with both of us now in our 40’s…well that mid-life thing, ya’ll know. I’m actually moving closer to her attitude in life…gym, stylish presentation, where’s the party/event/social gathering. I can only wonder if she’s gaining some of my past perspective…the ‘shit happens’ attitude or the ‘I’m so tired I just want to stay home’ philosophy!
I don’t know about all that but I do know I’m not going to let the divide chasm open again. She admitted she prefers to stay in contact with people over the Internet because she can answer at 11pm when she has a moment…(yes, she’s the night owl and I’m the morning person) so I’ve made it a point to fire one off to her at least weekly.
Of course, she can always check the blog to stay in touch. But of course, in all those opposites, which one of us do you think disapproves of promiscuous behavior!