I mentioned at the beginning of the year I had a new man to enjoy but never really went beyond that. Before anyone jumps to the conclusions that I’m looking for a replacement for Sex God, I am not. He and I are very happy with each other (even after 4 years) and part of that happy is to NOT LIMIT our ability to play with others nor limit getting attached to others. After my husband, I try very hard NOT to run/control/parent the life of my boyfriends! It’s my natural talent and I’m good at and it can be a great asset but it also puts a strain on a relationship and changes the dynamics too much. Sex God’s life is currently in a turmoil and I have to make sure I don’t get swept into the maelstrom.
So last fall I had opened my AFF profile for a conference but I was enjoying the emails and pursuit. I was missing a few lovers who’ve fallen off my “grid” (i.e. they don’t contact me anymore) Tongue God & Hottie specifically, and wanted to fill that void. I still wish I had a lovely Ultimate Cub to worship me and it is desires like this that drive me to the sites. I kept asking myself, “Why are you bothering… isn’t your life complicated enough!?” But I never completely felt the desire to close the profile so kept it open and at it answering emails & setting up dates that stood me up more often than not.
Until I met Bear. I was optimistic at the meet and after our first play date I knew I’d found what I was looking for and I easily closed the profile sites.
He is not an Ultimate Cub and happily not an Ultimate Man. What he is, though, is a wonderful possibility as a permanent threesome with Sex God. Now he got his nickname due to his level of body hair, which I personally find enjoyable, so let’s get that questions outa the way. He’s Sex God’s age so he’s had the wife & kids thing and has moved onto enjoying relationships as a discovery of his own hedonistic enjoyment. Which is EXACTLY how Sex God and I view it. An even better plus about him is he’s already explored a little of his bisexual side and loved it. Although he’s more like my level of bisexuality than Sex God’s. Bear doesn’t really look at men lustily but he does enjoy a “everybody touches, orally plays with & sexually enjoys everyone in the room” type of group play. Just like me 😀
(Sex God always snarks that bisexuals are the MOST non-biased people cuz they love EVERYBODY!)
One of the things that makes a lover wonderful is just how attractive and wonderful he find ME. I’m fully aware of how Narcissistic that sounds, but it doesn’t make it any less true. When a man finds you extremely desirable and just goes on and on about how he loves all the personality parts you particularly enjoy about yourself AND your body also, well…. it just heightens the experience completely. Bear finds me very sexy and just adores me in the bedroom. He likes me outa it also, which is a big plus (!) and for the most part I really enjoy his company. Is he as perfectly matched outside the bedroom as Sex God and I? No, but on our last tryst we spent just as much time talking as we did having sex. Most of my good FWB’s share that tendency and its NOT just cuz I’m an entertaining talker! I’ve been with men I could tell weren’t interested in my conversation and they usually aren’t called back for a second play date. lol
And on to the having sex with Bear part that you’re all so eagerly waiting for. Sluts haha
Every time I see Bear I’m always surprised by how attractive I find him. That happens to me a lot since I tend to see/remember/keep in my mind just a person’s soul and less their physical appearance. But particularly in Bear’s case I remember his cock. Because it is quite the noteworthy thing. Its about a quarter to a half inch longer than Sex God’s which means he can sometimes hit that perfect spot perfectly and sometimes too hard! But he’s also thicker throughout. And that has its own glorious appeal. I love it in my hands, its a fun challenge in my mouth and it makes me squirt soooo much when its fucking me.
Now with Cocks there are so many variables to a great fit. Thick can mean thick at the base but thin at the head or thick head with a thinner stock. Length can be very subjective also depending on blood flow. You can have a long or hugely thick cock but not very hard or too hard and you have to practically pry it away from the body! A too thick cock can sometimes stretch you too much so you get a little sore quicker from the friction due to natural lubrication having a difficult time covering every area! All I’ve personally experienced.
Phat Boy’s cock is short and thick headed, which makes him perfect for the way he fucks. Tasty Man’s cock is thicker at the base & a little on the long side for me. Sex God’s cock fits like a glove. But Bear’s cock is the type you fantasize about… the type you see is good porn, only not so long! (I think porn cocks need to be extra long so the camera can get a good shot without him falling out!)
When we first met we talked for two hours and the horny glint in his eye as he walked me to the car was delicious. But even more delicious was the way he took charge of my entertainment-mode babbling to end all conversation & move the moment into sex with a kiss. That brought up my inner slut and he got instantly hard with her looking back at him. I went a bit seductive and pressed myself against him which is what happens when a kiss turns me on that much. He loved it and we quickly made a play date, regretting we couldn’t play right then and there.
The first night of sex with Bear was practically mind blowing. See… he does special effects for a living so he’s really, really good with ropes. And he’s naturally dominant in a way that works on me. Since I’m a dominant myself it takes a certain type of dominant man to bring out my eager sub. Bear does it nicely with a firm shove onto the bed and a pounce on top of me. There was a lot of kissing. There was a lot of him testing the limits of my own oral skills which blew his mind as I took up the challenge of going beyond my usual abilities with his demands to deep deep throat that long cock.
My efforts were rewarded when he pounded the squirt out of me. Literally! At the end of our second fuck session on that first night we had a pool of wet on his bed that was about 18″ long and 6″ wide! Basically the area from my crotch to my knees was just soaked. It was his girth and how he enjoys my favorite position as much as Sex God. And how long he’ll pound me! We fucked for a good 15-20 minutes before he came the first time. Exhausted he tossed the condom & we chatted & cuddled as much as two sweat soaked people wanted to cuddle hahaha. Before I realized it he was hard again after maybe 30 minutes!
Now I’m going to attribute that to his libido (whether pharmaceutical induced I don’t care & don’t know) because I’m not hot enough to rouse a sexually sated male unless he’s just naturally excessively horny! And its obvious that Bear is a high libido hedonist just like Sex God and I, particularly since after he came the second time he lay next to me on his stomach almost as if he was “presenting” his ass to me. When I stated that he grinned and said, “Maybe I am…” I replied by giving him a bit of a spanking. Then I ordered him to get up on his knees and I began to explore his ass in the way he obviously wanted me to. He loved it, got hard, fucked me some more but, knowing he wouldn’t manage a third orgasm stopped when I’d obviously had enough orgasms to make me limp.
Hard to tell from this but I’m up on my knees with my weight on my shoulders & ropes up my crotch taking it like a good sub.
That first night with Bear was laced a lot with a “Oh, Sex God would love this… cock, ass, etc.” And Bear was completely open for a threesome. But we delayed because he wanted a bit more of just me before we jumped into that. Although it took a month before we’d be able to play again. And that second time he DID bring out the ropes and we had sooo much fun! I’ve been tied up before, and I’ve had a bit of BDSM flogging toys used on me but only had minimum enjoyment out of it. But Bear was just on a different level. First off his flogger is wonderful. Its less about pain as it makes more noise that really hurts. Don’t get me wrong, it does hurt, but in a good way. I cannot describe how it felt… as it can only be experienced… but he flogged my breasts that just got me creaming and then fucked me all tied up in a way that was such a challenge I loved every minute of it!
Bear is a perfect FWB is many ways. Our second date we walked to a bar, had a couple drinks, talked & touched, walked back and had that wild rope night. When together we can talk kids & Ex’s with easy comfort-ability. We can even touch on politics although I suspect he is NOT a liberal like I haha… but then again I’ve got a lot of non-liberal tendencies from watching & reading too much SciFi… so we connect on those.
But the best part is he’s an easy 15 minute drive away. And while his schedule does make it difficult to try and connect sometimes as he has a VERY busy work schedule & his kid on some weekends he CAN host our trysts when he IS available. THAT is a wonderful thing.
And I know you may be wondering how Sex God feels about all this. Well, he thinks Bear and I are being selfish not sharing the “us” time with him. lol.. but I know he’s joking. And we DID eventually have that threesome. Which, if you all are very good… I’ll tell you all about in another blog 😀