I mentioned in a previous post that I attended a seminar on Fireplay by the Master Dom Oprheus Black.
http://www.orpheusblack.com/about/
The post was a monthly wrap up and was ALREADY much too long, so I wasn’t able to go into enough detail that I’m sure everyone is interested in hearing. heeheehee
The seminar was very fun. I went with Germanman, as his guest. I met him there as he had a dinner date after. The first part was very informative about using a dowel in your bondage rope play for easy freeing… you know… just in case the worst happens in your Fireplay, like something ignited that wasn’t supposed to! I have to say, I found that first part of the seminar most fascinating for two reasons. I like the use of the dowel (and after I ran up to see if I could buy a dowel but they’d sold them ALL out. lol) and for the way he used his physical presence to dominate his sub. He made sure, as he tied them, that they were well aware he was in charge because he maintained a level of body contact…. so there wasn’t a break in the mental domination as he roped them up. I stress this because I’ve been the sub in play and its VERY difficult to maintain the mental role if you step aside to do a task.
Back to the seminar! What, you may ask, is Fireplay? Well Dr. Chaves from the ASKMEN.com site describe it as
“an extreme form of temperature play that occurs in the BDSM scene (safe, sane and consensual) where controlled flammable substances and fire are used to create unique and pleasurable sensations on the skin. It’s definitely dangerous to a novice and should never be attempted without proper education, guidance and experience. For those who have the knowledge, it can be a safe and pleasurable experience for both the top and bottom. Think of it as the opposite end of the spectrum from ice play. When we use ice on the genitals or erogenous zones for erotic purposes, the extreme temperature provides unique sensations that some people find pleasurable. The same goes for fire, it’s just more extreme and more precautions need to be taken.”
So as Orpheus showed us, its using an accelerant with fire on a naked body as erotic foreplay. Now I’d heard of the cupping technique where heated glass is placed on the skin and as it cools it forms a suction seal, and while Orpheus mentioned that, it really isn’t part of what he was talking about. And of course, after a little break, he set up a demonstration for us. 😀
He first demonstrated on his beautiful wife Indigo. Putting her on the giant X in the room he bared her back and after putting on some music and dimming the lights, he began to play the fire across her body. She gasped and shuddered and seemed to really enjoy the entire process! It was truly fascinating… and I’d love to go into more detail, but really, I was just an observer and such detail is better described by someone who’s had EXPERIENCE with it!
But I will say watching the process I realize there is a large difference between their level of participation and my level of participation when it comes to role playing. They set the mood, they completely delve into it… while me, the closest I get is to settle into a very seductive mind set. Otherwise I never actually leave my thinking process. Now during sex, I’m completely enthralled by what I’m feeling or by my desires… but when I Dom it’s to get a feedback reaction from my Sub… and if there isn’t a reaction I lose interest rather quickly. So anyone who wants me to Dom them has to be sensitive to touch and tongue and WANT the torture enough to make noises while I find as many sensitive places as I can.
I will say that it was very interesting to realize where I knew this name Orpheus Black once I got there. This was the same man who everyone was waiting for when The Gentlemen took me to a huge Polyamorous Gathering. (Here is THAT blog post lol) http://www.heatherbarton.com/?p=4068
And as I realized that, I also realized that many of the same people at that party discussion where at this event. The gentleman looking to be a third at the party was working the Toys store next to the event. One of the demonstratee’s was his “Sub”. Another of the demonstratee’s was Indigo’s lover. It was amusingly familiar to see the grouping had solidified in the 2 years since I last saw them. And I just a spectator to their spectacle.
A month later I received a package in the mail. Germanman had gone and bought me a dowel! Now all I need is proper ropes!