So I’m days away from closing my profile to incoming emails and taking stock of the interesting men I’ve met in the last 3 months. OMG… I’m so looking forward to it! Don’t get me wrong.. I love that site and I’ll NEVER leave it, 😉 But its addicting and distracting and I can’t enjoy the men I prefer because I’m too busy noticing the new men emailing me.
And I’m beginning to establish more of what I’m looking for in my mind. I realize that often I’ve felt more like a Dirty, Sexy Secret than an FWB. Don’t get me wrong… I don’t want to be anyone’s girlfriend or anyone’s “only one” but if you can’t be seen with me in public or are uncomfortable if I want to lust you in public, then we have a problem.
The Friends part is important. Movies, dinner, the beach (although I may enjoy watching you sport in the water than actually join you there… I make a great “watch the stuff” girl lol!) a concert, dancing, even a play (although it better not be a musical!). All these things add to the friendship without having to be a relationship. Because it allows us to enjoy each other in a way that is in addition to sex.
As much as sex is important to me, it’s not all of me. Humor is a BIG part of who I am. And enjoying the company of a person is also a big part of that as I’m something of an extrovert. Experiencing fun and interesting things an absolute MUST for 2010.
The funny thing is, I don’t want to meet anyone’s family. I don’t necessarily want to meet anyone’s freinds, although THAT I’m not so opposed to as it could be fun. When I interviewed a bunch of 22 year olds at a BBQ a year ago for my book we had a blast! And I was reigning in all my Seduction Aura at the time! No such leash these days… hee hee. Boggles the mind how much fun could be had with a group at a club.
Yet finding a few FBW’s held several steps. Meeting them, enjoying them to see if the lust can translate into the bedroom and then seeing them again. I’d never managed to make it to the last stage! So when I realized my Silver Member ship was about to expire, which allows me to view profiles of men who’d emailed me, I took it as the perfect opportunity to close the door. Temporarily.
And now that its almost closing time I wonder if my FWB definition is different than theirs? Does their idea of an FWB hold so much discretion that we only meet in hotels and never go out in public? I think to myself.. I haven’t seen Avatar and would like to. Should I ask someone? Will they want to go? And what if I win Coachella tix? Should I take a playmate? Who would go? Who would want to go? And would they try to play it discreet? (I’m starting to dislike that word.)
I have a free Vegas trip coming up. Planning on the summer as its mid-week and will be taking my long-suffering girlfriend who needs a few days away.. but I ask myself… would an FWB even want to go? And would I want him to go or just go play in Vegas?
lol… I can hear all of you laughing at the silliness of my thought process. Just be thankful I wrote this blog today and not the one I’d thought to write about Penis’s. (penii! Whatever!!)