I was listening to this comedian, who said…
You know how when you’re girlfriend asks you to do something. And you don’t really want to do it, so you do a really BAD job at it hoping she’ll never ask you to do that again. Well, my girlfriend does that with blow jobs.
A lot of women are like that. Not me particularly but a lot of women. And the reason is blow jobs are a lot of work! It can be exhausting trying to get that man off with just your mouth or the combination of your mouth and your hand. Ah yet, the secret ladies, is he may not need or want to get off. He wants the added flavor of being in your mouth as foreplay!
I say, kick it up a notch! Have him show you how he jacks himself off. Surprisingly not every man does it the same way! Some don’t even use the entire hand, just fingers. Some men don’t stroke the entire shaft, just one small section or just under and over the head. Some men lie down and just fuck their hand! It’s different with every man.
And the beauty is if he shows you how he jacks off, he’s showing you where is “sweet spot” is. And this is perfect in helping you give him the ultimate BJ. He’ll show you just how to hold him, tell you if you need more spit and help you with how fast or slow to do it. He won’t be shy about it and he’ll love it that you’re asking.
Yet be aware that few women have the hand strength or the arm endurance to jack off a man. Like I said, that can take WORK! Well, perhaps a “professional” does.. but we aren’t professionals! It’s another reason I tell women to make sure they work their arms and shoulders with strength training!
So remember. It’s not a “job” its a new exploration of the male part we don’t have. Connecting with that opposite. That other human being who has similar parts yet different; similar thoughts yet different. Enjoy his difference and celebrate it. And if you’re not enjoying and celebrating your man, ask yourself why you are having sex with someone you respect so little.
And move past the bedroom. Not every blow job has to be with him lying down, or you on your knees. What about you sitting comfortably on the bed (like you’re about to read your favorite romance novel) and he stands over you. Spread his legs wide until he’s the right height for you.. the added challenge of staying in that position might heighten everything for him. Plus it gives you access to so many more parts to caress.
Sex, at its best, is an expression of intimacy that is more than just feelings. Its exploration of physical and mental boundaries in a sharing manner for mutual pleasure. Don’t limit it to what works best, allowing yourself to get into a routine. Get silly and try something new or crazy. Who cares if you both end up laughing, sex shouldn’t be so serious!
Oh and the BEST part of a good blow job is when he ejaculates. (Actually, this applies to WHENEVER he ejaculates!) Because he’s soooo sensitive after that. Sliding your slightly rough tongue over his head after that and watching him groan or twitch or jerk or scream… very, very wonderful.
Sometimes the sensations can get him hard again! 😉