I was reading over some comments on my blog posts and came across one who made a brilliant point…
“Sometimes I felt I had to perform quickly. That, because they gave me oral that I was just supposed to cum quickly. I suppose it depends on the female. My last girlfriend enjoyed giving me oral but was surprised that I would cum more quickly with intercourse compared to oral. I think it comes to the questions in our manly heads, will she swallow, is she bored, will my cock stay hard, how long will she go for this, etc.etc…. So with oral I like it very much but at the same time I would like the one I’m with to enjoy it. Communication is key of course but sometimes you lose your erection when it all becomes an issue at any point, so just enjoying each other on all levels is very euphoric.”
This is something that I feel men should share with their partners. She may be walking (or crawling, hee hee) into the task with her own motivations but if she realizes the hopes and worries running through your head she may see it as less of a chore just for YOU and more a fun enjoyment between the two of you. So tell her you love every second she’s down there but it will never replace the joy of wildly fucking um, making love to her.
And ladies, you should ease his mind before EVERY blow job with the words, “Cum if you want, doesn’t matter, just enjoy the ride.”
My favorite fwb to bj gives me a 5 second count-down before he cums. Heightens my own pleasure knowing he’s that close. Although his personal goal is to be able to start at 10!