In perusing the Yahoo news.. (yes, that’s where I get my news, bite me!) I come across an article of Things Men Wish Women Knew. I’m, of course, very interested. I have strong opinions about this subject, feeling that MOST women just don’t understand how men think. And as a woman who does kinda think like men, I’m always interested in attempts to educate women.
The article hits with ones I know all about. “Make the first move”, yes, done. “Men aren’t mind-readers, speak up when its on your mind,” yes, obviously. “Men want to be wanted for more than JUST their provider status,” easily done if you see them first as path partners. “Excessive drama pushes them away,” duh!
The list goes on but as I read the paragraph about “Its ok to play hard to get but avoid old school tactics” I stop cold. The description of how to do it wrong is plain… giving a man signals that you are NOT interested is going to be read as you are not interested! But according to the article being a little unavailable AFTER you’ve shown some clear interest…. THAT is playing hard to get, the right way. Going coy & being busy is the correct way to entice a man into the chase by playing hard to get.
And I realize I’ve been inadvertently doing this for the last 2.5 years!
See when I’d get an email from a man on AFF, if the attraction was mutual I’d try to set up a meet as soon as possible so I could move the contact OFF the website quickly. This avoided those only interested in sexting. And verified this new interest looked like his picture & the chemistry was really there in person. It eliminated me spending a lot of time on someone that wasn’t going to end up in bed with me.
But after THAT… hahaha… my schedule was usually extremely tight for said bed play. While going on a date was easy to do, taking the date to the bedroom became problematic. Especially now that the Ex still refuses to take his court ordered custody of his oldest son. So, often a new man would get lots of, I’m busy that night, but free THIS night (weeks or months later!)
So without meaning to in any way, I’ve somehow mastered the talent of Playing Hard to Get.
Which explains why so many were chasing me! Of course, many that are still chasing/vying/begging for time with me have already played in bed with me. They’re not chasing me as much as hooked, so to speak. heehee