I was posting on Facebook one of my fascinating little adventures when one of my friends commented that I sound like a Base Jumper. His exact words were,
” I have to admit, I think you’re in a completely different universe to most of the world when it comes to sex. You strike me as comparable to adrenaline junkies (BASE jumpers in particular) who are constantly in search of the ultimate high. They get an intense thrill in what they do. But the same launch point will never satisfy them on a constant repetitive basis. So they seek a new ride from many different places.”
He did say he enjoyed reading about my adventures & there was a bit of envy involved, which feeds my ego and makes me smile. But I must admit it irked me a bit to link my desires & boldness to someone addicted to adrenaline. I immediately flashed back to my doctor saying sky divers are probably bi-polar because of their lifestyle choice. Rankles me just a bit.
Yet it IS very similar to the description I read once about the astrological sign Aries (of which I am one) “romantically flitting from one flower to another” and I’ve always thought that kind of applied to me. Although I also assumed that was due to the fact that when a relationship didn’t seem to be progressing anywhere I would accept the fact, break up with the guy and look for a new possibility.
Now that I’m a Cougar and poly-amorous, happily dating others with the approval of my main squeeze, I look at relationships differently and can see how people can mistaken my enjoyment of the “NEW” for a need for exhilaration. But it goes a little beyond that.
See, I’m an entertainer who doesn’t have the time to actually “entertain” on a massive scale. (i.e. go on stage and make a roomful of drunks laugh at all the hilarity of my stories gleaned from my amazingly quirky life. Well… that IS the fantasy lol) I’ve said many times, one of these days I’m going to do it, but between raising my three sons, running a business & hoping to find the time to write here and there (even if its just a blog entry) well, not only do I NOT have the TIME to pursue the desire, I don’t have the money!
In my evenings I work on some of the mindless work tasks in front of t.v., on the weekends I try to catch up on household & yard chores, during the afternoons I parent the kids by helping with school & getting them to do their chores. And in between that I’ll chat with a lover here and there, set up a meet with a new potential man or set up a date to enjoy some “Heather Time” and sometimes I’ll give a smoldering appraisal look to a sexy man I’ll see in passing. So of course I’ll look forward to the occasional new man. A NEW man hasn’t heard my stories, hasn’t realized the unique woman I am both in and out of the bedroom, hasn’t experienced the uncomplicated, non-expectation fun of a night with “easy to please” Heather.
A New Man has eons of “potential”
And I truly love it when they meet me and realize they’ve managed to find a gem in the dating world. Someone cute but not crazy, someone who likes sex but isn’t desperate or needy, someone who’s happy with her life yet not sitting on a high horse waiting for that Prince to climb up & be worthy. See I’m not an “I’m falling in love with you” gem, but a “wow, you think like a guy & yet, you’re so sexy” kind of gem.
When the New Man realizes all this their eagerness is addictive! Their compliments are wonderful for my ego as a woman. So, of course, I’ll often crave a dose of “New Man” once a quarter or so. Hell, sometimes my lovers don’t see me for months & months and its almost like having a new man as they’ve forgotten how interesting they found me in the first place! (Both Tongue God & Hottie fall into THAT category! Haha)
So when this Aries gets bored with the regular-ness of life, well, I add a little spice by opening my dating profile to see what New Men are lured down my wanton path. Not really Base Jumping…. that would be, like, playing with a new man without a condom!