For those of you who have read Cat or have spent time discussing sex with me, you know my own personal fantasies involve dominant males in sex. I look back on my dating/sexual history trying to find instances where I’ve had sex with dominant men. I came up with a blank.
And I wondered about that. Was I too dominant myself to allow the male to “rise” to the occasion? Was I not into dominant males back then? Was I more about proving to the male I was good in bed than asking for my own fantasy? Did I know or have fantasies back then?
Wait… wait, its coming back to me. Yes I had fantasies but they were about love. Now my fantasies are just about sex. But why the fantasy of sex in a dominant situation? After all… that can be dangerous if not done with the right person. Many males assume dominant means aggressive or rough, macho with the “cook me dinner, woman” attitude. (Screw that, I say, cook me breakfast!)
So in analyzing myself (and you know people, I’m always analyzing myself…. I’m my favorite subject… no, sex is my favorite subject… okay me and sex are my favorite subjects…. wait… what was I talking about? Oh yes, NOW I remember.) I began to analyze my dominant fantasy scenes and I realized it was giving me more than orgasms, it was giving me a level of emotional satisfaction. (Fascinating… says Spock.. or if you watch The Big Bang Theory…Fascinating, says Sheldon.)
I AM a dominant female. I can easily dominate a sexual situation and I thoroughly enjoy seducing another individual. I am also excessively competent and in charge, every day of my life. Which is why letting go completely to a male in charge brings a sigh of pleasure to my lips. The fantasy of not making a single decision in a seduction and not knowing what will happen next is enticing.
Of course you have to have the right dominant male, one who does it with strength and not fear, a seduction not a rape. And it has been suggested to me that the Cougars won’t find that in the young 22 year olds. That this is something that comes to a male with age and confidence. Of course, that opinion came from a male over his 40’s!
I guess I’ll just have to do a little “research”….