Hopefully many of you already know there has been a recent change in my “status” from Married to Single. We haven’t divorced (yet) nor truly separated (again, yet) but we’ve decided to “be single” and still live together due to financial reasons and because of our kids. And its helped. I’m happier and less frustrated at him and together we’re fine partners. He’s taken a more active role in consciously parenting instead of babysitting. And a more self-directed hand in his own life.
That being announced… the news is I played and joined CougarConnection.com. After the debacle of going out to a bar myself and getting, well, ignored, by the groups of guys and girsl (gee, is he single? No he’s hugging her, wait… now he’s off to himself.. damn! I’m confused!) I thought going directly to a source of what I’m looking for might be more efficient. And you know me ladies, I’m always efficient.
Eithne had finally taken some good shots of me and I filled out the endless questionnaire about myself and my preferences. Thank God there were boxes to check! I did that 2 weeks ago tomorrow, on a Thursday evening… giving up half way on their questionnaires by 11p and went to bed. And I was honest. In my profile I listed specifically what I was looking for and what I wasn’t. Just Friends with Benefits, preferably ones I get along with so they can be FRIENDS and preferably ones that spark my libido so there are BENEFITS. And if I’m lucky… a little fantasy realization.
The next AM I went to the site to fill out the rest of the questionnaire and I was floored. I had 9 emails. By the end of that day I had 20! It was a feeding frenzy! I don’t know if its the pix or what I wrote or the fact it was a “real” woman on the site which is apparently 100/1 guys/girls but I spent a week trying to answer all the interest. As of this date I’ve said “no” to over 200 men. And I’ve said yes to several.
Oh and ladies, these guys are hot and cute and real and interesting. And they all want me. My ego is on its way to Mars! And the pictures while good, don’t capture the spark that is my personality… so I’ve been having the fun of truly surprising them when they get into emailing me and meeting me. What’s that McDonalds jingle…”ba, ba, ba, ba ba, I’m loving it”
Wow… I can hear the cringing through the internet! “Be safe!” “I worry!” “I don’t know how you can do that.” I can do it because I’m a doer. When I want something I’m going to go after it. I’ve wanted lust in my life (and yes, ladies, I want lust not love) for over a year. Fate has handed it to me and I’m going to grab it for all its worth. Or grab them for all they’re worth… WHATEVER!!
Just think of me as your little test subject. You don’t have to be as wildly free and into your sexuality as me to enjoy this site. You just have to be open to sex in the relationship, when you’re ready. I can’t tell you how many men I rejected who were looking for Long Term Relationships, long walks on the beach, hours of massage, yada, yada yada.
I kept thinking of you guys every time I read a profile like that. Were they lying, probably not… were they desperate? Well, THAT’S a whole other story!