Being in an open relationship makes holidays like Valentines Day kinda fun. I’m obviously going to spend it with my favorite… my Sex God… but we have the option to drag in another into our fun. Plus I get lovely “Happy Valentines Day” texts from other admirers, which is always wonderful.
Usually I send them out also, but this year I was at a conference and simply forgot. Although since I took my Sex God to the conference, its possible his presence had me distracted!
Good enough to be a book cover!
We did more “celebrating” (with toys & outfits) the days BEFORE Valentines than the actual day. Since on the actual day of Valentines, we were packing up & flying back to Los Angeles from Washington DC. But it was the best present we could give each other. Two days together without any of the usual responsibilities, kids, work, etc.
On the long plane ride home, I read while he watched the in-flight movie & napped. And I found it difficult to keep my eyes & hands off him. I’ve told him several times that I adore the shell his soul has chosen. Almost as much as I adore his personality (his soul) itself. Don’t even get me started on his back… God I adore that span of muscle & skin, so broad & strong…. just flipping sexy as hell!
Mmmmmmmmm.
But the point is, our lifestyle isn’t for everyone, but it works for us. It works really, really well for us. Which is all anyone can ask for. Its not traditional, but it is genuine. And often more honest than many relationships. We are very honest about our needs, our expectations and our ability to fit both into our busy life.
Some people can’t wrap their heads around it because monogamy is their thing. And some even envy it because its free of many of the pitfalls of a normal relationship. But most are just happy we are happy. Because that’s all anyone really wants. The happiness of another person.
People bitch about Valentines Day being a commercial holiday. Oh it definitely is… but its also another reason to celebrate love, whether that’s with a member of the opposite sex or just someone you love. Your parents, your kids, your best friend, your pets. Who ever… use the holiday to FEEL that emotion wherever it is in your life. And if you find yourself whining about where its NOT in your life… change it. You got a year!
Hell, my mother sent my boys Valentines Day cards!