This doesn't really have anything to do with this post... he's just Freakin Hot!
It’s TRUE! Really, Ladies, let’s look at it logically.
To love someone UN-conditionally means you do not put conditions, hopes and dreams or any such nonsense projected onto your love when you love them. You just LOVE them! Men are easily capable of doing this. Because its uncomplicated, its basic and can easily be expressed as affection, seduction & sex… all forms of love that man are usually pretty good at.
Ah but women, well, women have such self esteem issues wrapped up in who loves them, how he loves them and when he loves them so much that they cannot seem to love a man just for himself. Noooooo they have to know he loves them and loves them in the right amount and the right way or it’s OFF!
Now I’m not saying that is completely a bad thing. Because its good to make sure you are treated as you deserve. I’m saying that, the concept can certainly go overboard and set a woman up with unrealistic expectations. Especially if her self esteem is tied up into HOW this love, loves her. There is a real difference between “knowing you deserve someone who truly loves you” and feeling “I’m worth something if he bends over backwards to be worthy of me” and uses it as a crutch for her own self esteem. It may seem a fine line but a woman should look VERY closely at her motives when she meets a prospective man. Cuz to be whole enough for an honest relationship is the final step to happiness in said relationship.
See, men are really too shallow for excessive complications in a relationship. They either have feelings for you or they don’t. And sometimes those feelings are very real, but they may not be as deep or as permanent as you think, or you imagine or you hope and plan and fantasize in your fairy tale child-like imagination.
But the reason men are better at loving unconditionally is a man doesn’t negate feelings just because they may be a little on the thin side. He’s just enjoying your company or your body or his time with you. If his feelings naturally deepened, then he’d know it was time to get serious. But if they didn’t, well, usually a man will still enjoy them even if it feels to YOU that he’s leading you on.
A man will usually enjoy his feeling up until the point that SHE gets fed up with the stagnancy of the relationship and start pushing it. And then he’ll either stop enjoying those feelings and walk away or do his own soul searching on the relationship.
So when I say men love unconditionally better than women its because men love without encumbrance and women do not. Men are just enjoying the feeling of the feelings you bring out when he’s with you. He’s not usually actively putting labels or stages or directions on these feelings. He’s just enjoying them.
I think we women need to do more of this. And I think the younger generation is a little better at that than women my age. Enjoying their relationships, learning about themselves and life through it and spending less obsession about who they are dating and where its going and being devastated when their expectations don’t materialize.
Because the guys are onto something here. It’s incredibly freeing to just ENJOY a man’s company without trying for the fairy tale romance insanity we have shoved down our throats all the time. Instead of BEING in LOVE… just enjoying loving.
Let’s face it, MOST of those fairy tale heroines were a product of tragedy and did ANY of those “Prince Charming” relationships really worked out?!?