The older you get, the faster time goes. I know its a perception thing and a “how busy we make our life” thing and a corny phrase to start a post with, but WOWZA, that’s how I feel today. I can barely wrap my head around the fact we have a month and a half until the end of 2015.
Probably because October kind of drizzles a person into fall in SoCal. It makes November slam right into you. And probably because it’s the birthday month of Sex God and my youngest and the month where I have to help mom bake 30 fruitcakes AND do Thanksgiving. So, yes, November is a slam month for me.
Top all that off with working 60 hour weeks, (37-40 at Target and 20 at Geddes) and parenting my struggling-with-life/reality-of-school children and I find myself living minute to minute in a whirlwind of “Oh Em Gee… has 8 hours passed already!!!”
Here is how busy I’ve been… I’ve had to cancel a play date with Ultimate Man twice… TWICE!!! Who does that!!! Who gives up amazing sex with a “still got the looks and the bod” ex-underwear model! No one, that’s who! Except a crazy busy woman who’s thinking… sleep, sleep would be nice. And my libido has been quieter lately and I cannot tell if that’s due to being over 50, finished with menopause, sexual satisfaction, or a symptom of sleep deprivation!
But I will say, I’m happy. I adore the Target job. The people are great! I’ve never worked with a group, all the way up the ladder, who are nice and polite to most everyone else in the same working boat. Of course, there will be tweaks and jerks and impressions/judgements and attitudes, but for the most part they are set aside for the professionalism of the job when on the job. I mastered cashiering pretty well after 2.5 months and they offered me a position as Baby Adviser on the sales floor. I’ve been doing that for several weeks and it’s a much more difficult position to master. Lots to learn and know and do quickly. I’m JUUUST starting to feel I’m figuring things out but think I’ve run out of time because BLACK FRIDAY is almost upon us!
Yup… not only will this be the first time I’ve ever worked a Black Friday, it’s going to be the first time I’ve ever EXPERIENCED a Black Friday. Not being a big shopper all my life, I’ve mostly done Xmas shopping with thrown cash or while I’m at Costco, picking up a thing or two I see there. I know its going to be a baptism of fire, but after the work day I had yesterday (completely disappointing my supervisor) I’m more determined than ever to succeed. Ironically, by the end of a day of, “you don’t know this yet?” I felt more empowered than beaten. She walked me through it, step by step. She corrected me when I misinterpreted instructions and laid out EXACTLY how she wanted a morning shift done. I’m ready for tomorrow having spent hours trying to master it yesterday.
I wish my KIDS could have this experience. Maybe then they wouldn’t take a scholastic defeat to personally and instead see it as a teaching moment to do better next time. Conor is still lying to me about everything. Telling me he’s doing better, done the work, eaten a damn vegetable and bam…. it’s a lie. I was able to throw him a birthday party for the first time in 4 years (since the divorce) and he really enjoyed the LaserTag. But I had to remove all his electronics from his life and restructure it around supervised homework. He can no longer be trusted to be in charge of that, due to the lying.
Amusingly, the kid I used to have serious trouble with this, Evan (middle son-16) has turned a corner and taken charge of actually doing the work in the classroom so he doesn’t have to do it at home. Now if he’d only take a more active role in his weight situation! lol I want him around forever, cuz he’s such hilarious company!
Luke had to drop one of his two community college classes. The bar there is higher and his essay writing just wasn’t up to snuff. This first semester has been his own version of baptism of fire. He and I will sit down and plan out his scholastic choices (something I never did when I went to college and should have) and focus on better performance next semester.
THIS… is a boring post. So I’ll end it with a bit of spice. Met an adorable 30 year old Cub the other night off the site. I agreed to the meet even though I’m horrendously busy due to a few factors… my instinct said he had a great smile even though none of his pictures had him smiling (he did!) and his profile listed him as bi and poly. Now, at 30 it is RARE to meet a man who not only knows he’s bisexual but that he’s polyamorous also. I asked him about that and he admitted he always knew. Evan as a kid he felt drawn to movies and situations where the main character loved two people. I, of course, captivated him completely under my spell and he has delicious lips when kissing, but I shall have to see how well we click in the bedroom.
Assuming I can find the time for that!
Mmmmm… that reminds me, gotta see if Ultimate Man is free.
I’m primarily a Liberal. But I’m also a writer. And what that means is I don’t arbitrarily hate what is different from me. Not saying that Liberals do… nor their Conservative counterparts…. what I’m saying is I can see the logic and benefits of many sides of any issue. I guess some would call me a Centrist in attitude and a Liberal in practice.
Couple months ago I went to a financial planning institution to straighten out my investments. See, a few years back I did SUCH a good job at cutting costs (streamlining) and sales at my mother’s business that I got a SEP contribution. My (then) husband was a trained financial planner so he opened a TD Waterhouse (now Ameritrade) account with it. What he neglected to
impress upon me tell me was I had to take charge of where I dispersed it. And since I was raising 3 kids (4 if you counted him), working and going through peri- menopause, I completely ignored that account for 4 years. Where it sat there, not even collecting interest!
In calling the company that handled my Roth IRA investments to see about name changes, etc last year I found out it wasn’t set up the way I wanted it originally. See 17 years ago when I left a job to marry and move to Texas I had somehow accumulated a pension. So I rolled it over into a Roth IRA through my new brother-in-law who worked for AmEx Financial Planning (now Ameriprise – don’t you love the erie similarity in names). I told him I wanted it put into socially responsible mutual funds. He frowned but I was firm and so I thought he’d done that. I contributed to it a bit in the early years of our marriage but after the third kid, pretty much left it alone. It grew.
After the recent phone call though I found out it wasn’t in socially responsible funds. And after talking to him I didn’t feel he was willing to help me move it to where I wanted. And then after talking to the Ameritrade woman, personally, I realized this attitude was a permanent structure in the entire investment community. Those who lived and breathed Capitalism would never understand or connect with the likes of me. They were ruled by the “More money at any costs” greed aspect that extreme Capitalism generates.
Her explanation that an investor had the right to expect “as much return as he could get” from a company just because he had chosen THAT company in which to invest his money. Yes, it had a level of logic. And I saw that logic. What I noticed was SHE didn’t see was the greed in the statement “as much as he could get.” And that is the true core problem in Capitalism. Yes, investing in companies with great ideas moves forward progress and is a wonderful way to use excess money to benefit society. BUT (and this is a HUGE but, a Baby Got Back butt) it should NEVER become more important than the people in the company working for the company or the customers supporting/benefiting from the company. And THAT is a part of Capitalism that Greed has blinded most people from realizing.
She sited GM and Unions as an example. I kept my mouth shut. Yes, the Auto Union in GM seemed to have wound its way into wounding the company. Yes, many of the positive need for Unions had disappeared as we grew a social conscience as a society. But did she see that cutting salaries from the top down makes more of a social impression than gutting pensions? No. And I knew at that moment she never would. So I didn’t bring up Costco vs Walmart as a better business plan. I didn’t bring up how big business has finagled into their pockets all the gov. subsides meant to help the smaller business [farms]. I didn’t mention the business owner who took a giant pay cut so his employees could all make $70,000 a year.
I didn’t say any of that, because she was old school. I could tell this from her over tanned, bleach blond, fake nail manicure, over 50 at least appearance… and her conversation of tickets to the Derby opening as Santa Anita and how she had 2 horses running. Times are changing, albeit slowly, and she and I will be dead before we see the complete change, but social media is allowing people to put their money where their beliefs are and more and more people are standing up against greed. Not as many as their needs to be in my opinion, but I also think (or perhaps I’m being idealistic) the NEW entrepreneurs are going to go more in the way of the Costco, Starbucks business model than the GM or Walmart.
Either way, I realized then that, again, I was on my own in making sure this investment went where I wanted it to go. So I’ve got some research to do on socially responsible mutual funds. And maybe a quick tutorial on “balancing” a portfolio lol. But I was firm about TWO stocks I wanted to buy. Costco and Tesla. She babbled about how no one purchases stocks unless its in 50 share bundles because that’s how you sell it. But when I went online to handle my account, the computer had NO problem using half the funds to buy what Costco stocks I could afford and the other half to buy what Tesla stocks I could get with the balance. See… what she doesn’t understand is I don’t plan on selling these. This is my way of letting my money support business’s I believe in. If it makes a profit, yay… if it doesn’t, well, it’s money that was more of a gift than earned.
I would rather live a poor but happy life than get sucked into the level of SOULLESS GREED is see at the top.
Go Bernie Sanders!!! heeheehee
Yes, I did it again. Hey! Don’t hate! I just happen to be one of the FEW who enter the online contests instead of trying to win over the phone. Of course, this win was last November (2014) and that’s how far behind I am in WRITING my blog posts!
The most interesting part was this win was at a bar instead of at the 987 Penthouse. (I’ve since learned they have a new penthouse so perhaps back then they were in the process of being evicted.. lol.. they DID blow out the electrical several times!) It was also smack dab in the daytime and downtown Hollywood. So parking was challenging, we drank before noon and the small bar was crowded while we waited to get into the band area. I did get a portable charger out of it 😀
Bastille (at that time) was my favorite band. I was eating up their music and seeing them live was on my concert list. Ironically, I was almost blase about the whole thing. I was smack in the middle of seasonal work at Costco and I’d been scheduled to work a shift that day. They managed to push my start time back but they said, “Get here when you can, we’ll take care of it.” not… come in at 2pm. So I was planning to rush to work after the concert to try and NOT piss them off. It kind of took the thrill and excitement out of the concert. Plus I couldn’t drink more than one light drink if I was going to be working!
The band played their usual 4 songs and they were wonderful! But we wanted to enjoy their music and performance more than wanted to see them up close so we ended up in a corner. We had a great SIDE view of the band! And they were introduced by the new morning crew of 98.7 The Woody Show. I dislike the new morning show IMMENSELY and seeing the crew didn’t change my impression of them in any way.
Once the concert was over, they didn’t mention anything about getting pix with the band and I was fretting about Costco so we scampered out and went on our way. (I forgot to bring my tennies so I did my shift in my boots! Ouch!)
I still enjoy Bastille’s music (even if they aren’t my fave anymore) and I would definitely choose to see them if they were at a festival. But not so much in a single concert. Single Concert choices is a SHORT list… Mumford & Sons, Panic at the Disco, Saint Motel, Imagine Dragons & Twenty One Pilots are so far the only ones on THAT list.
I inherited quite the snarky humor gene from my father. So did my brother and to a smaller extent my sister. I managed to pass it on completely to my youngest two sons, and to a lesser degree, my oldest. So, obviously, this is a dominant gene!
Conor (red head, youngest, 13 yrs, middle school) had to make up about 10 journal entries for English class. He’s soooo bad at doing it in the classroom we now have a Word Template for him at home. So I give him the list and template and insist he get started. His mood is COMPLETELY negative and when I read the entries they are dark and mean and absolutely NOT what the teacher is looking for. We leave it for the next day and this time I get him in a joking mood and go over answering the first journal question with him. This is usually all it takes to get his creative juices percolating. And THIS is some of what he turned in. (Which I didn’t read until after his teacher graded it with lots of “Haha, I love it” all over it.
If you could eat anything what would it be?
Lots and lots of junk food. Such as cake, cookies, ice cream, brownies, candy, brownies, chocolate candy!, ice cream cake, cake flavored pizza, pizza flavored cake, CANDY, and some stomach medicine.
Where did you go on your last vacation?
I went on a vacation a little while ago. I did absolutely nothing and I regret nothing. Deal with it (proceeds to put on sunglasses) And I should also mention that it was in Palm Springs.
What is your favorite movie?
Lord of the Rings. Great storytelling, amazing presentation, memorable characters, and a fandom so great to this day it still puts up a fight to all the Whovians of the worlds.
THIS is one of the reasons hanging with my kids is so hilarious. And probably one of the reasons their teachers rarely give up on them. When they DO participate they are smart, insightful and usually pretty funny.